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Extracts from ‘Cybersex-
Edited by Al Cooper
Published by Brunner-
People are people and beset by yearnings, temptations, appetites and lusts. However, the addition of computer technology makes modern times qualitatively different. The Triple A Engine of Access, Affordability, and Anonymity combine to accelerate and intensify online sexual interactions.
Secrecy: 68% of the nonsexually compulsive group, and 84% of the moderately compulsive groups reported keeping their online sex times secret from others. This is a hidden health hazard exploding, in part because very few are recognizing it as or taking it seriously.
Effects: From a survey or 91 women and 3 men, aged 24-
1. In response to learning about their partners online sexual activities, the survey
respondents felt hurt, betrayal, rejection, abandonment, loneliness, humiliation,
anger and loss of self-
2. Cybersex addiction was a major contributing factor to separation and divorce of couples in this survey: 22.3% were separated or divorced, and several; others were seriously contemplating leaving.
3. Partners compared themselves unfavourably with online women (or men) and pictures, and felt hopeless about being able to compete with them.
Testimony Samples
My husband does not believe he has an addiction. He doesn’t think it is a big deal because he hasn’t been with anyone else. He thinks that all he needs is a more loving wife.
I realise now that the things he most liked and requested when we made love together were recreations of downloaded images He is unable to be intimate, he objectifies me.
Now our bed is crowded with countless faceless strangers, where once we were intimate.
He did have affairs but not physically. My husband can at any time have an affair without leaving the house or seeing another human being.
My husband has actually cheated on me and it feels no different. The online “safe”
cheating has dirty, filthy feel to it as does the “real-
MPs study porn’s link to crime
NZ Herald December 6, 2002
The government hopes a committee of MPs can sort out inconclusive advice on whether watching pornographic and violent videos causes criminal behaviour.
Internal Affairs Minister George Hawkins acknowledged that as police minister he had been told that police couldn’t discount such a linkage.
Asked if he was aware of Child Youth and Family research which showed 20 young sex abusers had all seen hard core pornography, Mr Hawkins said: “The government administration committee started an investigation before the election and the have now taken it up again and will report to the House before the end of this year.” We are still waiting…